If quitting porn was just about “trying harder,” you’d be free already.

The truth is, you’ve built your life—your habits, your mind, your coping mechanisms—around escape. And porn has been your tool for managing pain, pressure, loneliness, and fear. It worked—until it didn’t.

From the jump, Genesis tells us we were made in the image of a relational God—Father, Son, and Spirit—living in eternal connection. God didn’t create humans out of loneliness. He wasn’t bored or needy. He created to extend that perfect relationship outward—to invite us into it.

That means everything about us—our needs, our struggles, our wiring—is shaped by and for relationship.

Here’s a truth most people don’t talk about: porn addiction is less about sex and more about disconnection.

You don’t use porn just because you’re horny. You use it because you’re lonely, ashamed, disconnected, and looking for something that feels like relief. Even if it’s just for five seconds.