You can always get through.You can never get through secretly.
A pause where the urge hits. A question about what is underneath it. And one person who hears from you sooner than you want to tell them.
Built by a coach who does this work full time, out of the methods he uses with men in his practice.
Not on the App Store yet. This button goes live the day it is approved.
Nothing you write ever leaves your phone. No account, no cloud, no server, no analytics. There is nothing to breach because there is nowhere for it to go. Covenant Eyes costs more than this every year, and takes a screenshot of your phone every minute to do it.
I built this because my practice is full and the men keep coming. The thing that actually works — not doing this alone — shouldn't require getting on my calendar. Michael Kamber, founder
Why this exists
For years nobody knew I was looking at porn. I was certain that if anyone found out, they would hate me or leave. The hiding is what kept me trapped.
Most tools built for this make the hiding worse. They watch you and send reports to someone else, so you learn to be careful instead of honest. Or they hand you a streak that resets to zero the day you fail, so one bad day turns into a verdict about who you are.
Neither one touches the thing that actually holds it in place: being the only one who knows.
Unalone is the app I wish I had. Not a watchdog. Not a streak counter. A pause where the urge hits, a question about what is underneath it, and one person who hears from you sooner than you want to tell them.
Michael Kamber · Founder, Restoration Soul Care · Pastoral Multiple Addiction Professional, credentialed through IITAP
Who built this
This is not a startup's guess at recovery.
I quit porn before I ever helped anyone else do it. Nothing here is theory. I know what the reach feels like at 11pm, and I know what finally made it lose its grip.
For years now this has been my full-time work. I founded Restoration Soul Care in Louisville, where I coach men one to one through compulsive behavior, run weekly recovery groups, and train church leaders to walk with the men in their care.
The check-in, the pause, the person — I did not invent them for an app store. They are what I have watched work, week after week, in the lives of men sitting across the table from me.
The moment itself
What happens when you reach.
The behavior is rarely the real problem. It is what shows up when something underneath is not being dealt with. Everything here is built to get at that — to turn the urge into a conversation instead of a report.
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The phone does not just say no.
You reach for a blocked app. Instead of a wall, you get a question: where you are, and what you are feeling. Bed, car, office, alone at home. Lonely, angry, afraid, ashamed. Naming it is most of the work.
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Then three choices, and all three are real.
Text the person you named. Do one of the things you already decided you would do instead. Or continue anyway. Nothing is disabled and nothing is hidden.
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Continuing costs a pause, not a punishment.
Go through anyway and the app unlocks for fifteen minutes, then closes on its own. A clock starts counting the hours until someone knows. Nothing is sent, and nothing is reported. It simply refuses to let the moment quietly disappear. It stops the second you tell your person.
What it is
Four things, and that is the whole app.
A pause where the urge hits
Between the urge and the app you reached for, long enough to notice what is actually driving it.
A short check-in each day
Head, heart, body, spirit. Four questions, about a minute. The daily rhythm is where your pattern shows up.
One person who hears from you
When it matters, in your own words, sent by you from your own Messages app.
Blocking, if you want it
It comes at the end of setup, after the part that does the real work.
What it isn't
Four things it refuses to be.
Surveillance
No screenshots, no scanning, no reports going to anyone. Nobody sees what you looked at, including us.
A streak
There is no number to lose. A bad day does not erase anything, and you will not be starting over.
A lock
You can always get through. It costs you twenty seconds and it gets recorded, but the door is not bolted.
Something you do by yourself
That is the whole idea. One other person is the part that actually changes this.
Privacy
We cannot leak what we never had.
Apps in this category have leaked their users' most intimate records. That is not a risk we manage carefully. It is a risk we do not carry, because there is no server on the other end of this app.
Delete your data and it is gone, because there was never another copy.
Don't do this alone
The app works best when it is not the only thing in your corner.
Restoration Soul Care runs small men's groups, in person in Louisville and online from anywhere. Five men, ten weeks, honest conversation. If you do not have a person to name in the app yet, a group is where you find one.
Find a group →Not sure this is your problem
Then start with what is underneath it.
Compulsive behavior is usually the thing that shows up when capacity runs out somewhere else. The Pressure Assessor is sixteen questions, about five minutes, and it tells you where yours breaks down first. It is free, and it is useful whether or not you ever download this app.
Find your weak link →Questions
The things people ask before they download.
Is this only about porn?
That is what it was built for, and it is my own story. But the app never names your struggle and never needs to know it. If you reach for something compulsively and hiding it is part of the pattern, the same mechanics apply.
Does the app ever text anyone for me?
Never. Every message is written by you, or pre-filled for you to edit, and sent by your own thumb from your own Messages app. Nothing goes to anyone automatically. Not to your person, not to us, not to anybody.
What happens to everything I log?
It stays on your phone. All of it. Check-ins, urges, everything you type lives in a database on your device and nowhere else. There is no account, no cloud, no server, and no analytics watching you. If you delete your data, it is gone, because there was never another copy.
What's the clock on my home screen?
If you push through and open a blocked app anyway, a clock starts counting the hours until someone knows. It is not punishment and nothing gets sent. It just refuses to let the moment quietly disappear. It stops the second you tell your person.
If I walk away from a blocked app, do I still have to tell someone?
No. Walking away is the win. The app records that the moment happened, offers you the option to mention it to your person, and asks nothing more. The clock only starts when you go through anyway.
Why can I always get through?
Because a lock you cannot open teaches you to fight the lock, and you will win. Every blocker can be beaten by an uninstall. Unalone does not try to cage you. It makes sure that getting through costs a pause and does not stay secret. Honesty is the mechanism, not restraint.
Why does the app unlock for 15 minutes when I continue anyway?
Because your decision deserves a real result, but it should not buy the whole night. Urges crest and pass. After 15 minutes the block returns on its own, and getting through again takes a fresh, deliberate choice. A hard night becomes a series of honest decisions instead of one open door until morning.
Why do I have to open Unalone instead of deciding right on the block screen?
Apple limits what a block screen can show to a title and two buttons. So the block screen stops you, and one tap on the notification brings you into the app, where the real moment happens: where you are, what you are feeling, and your three choices. The trip over is part of the pause.
What are the two buttons on the block screen?
Exactly what they say. "Open Unalone" brings you into the app to decide with your eyes open. "Close" closes the app you reached for and you go on with your night. Both get remembered. Neither one is failure.
Is the check-in daily, or just when I'm struggling?
Daily, and it takes about a minute. The daily rhythm is where your pattern shows up, and the pattern is where the real work is. The "I'm struggling" button is separate. It is there for the moment itself, any time.
What does "Not hearing anything right now" mean in the Spirit question?
It means exactly that, and it is a legitimate answer. Some seasons are quiet. Recording the quiet honestly beats manufacturing something you did not hear.
How many apps should I block?
Two or three. The places it actually starts, which for most people is the browser and one or two apps. Block twenty and the pause fires all day for ordinary reasons until it stops meaning anything.
What if I don't have anyone to name?
Start anyway. The app works without a person, and it will keep gently asking, because one other person is the part that actually changes this. It does not have to be the perfect person. It has to be someone who will answer. And if there is truly no one, that is what the groups are for.
Should my wife or husband be my person?
Usually not, and not because they do not deserve honesty. They do, and that is its own work. But a spouse is too close to the harm to also be the person you call when the urge hits. It puts them in a policing role and turns every disclosure into a conversation about the relationship instead of about you. Pick someone who can hear the truth and stay level. If your spouse is the only person you have got, name them for now and keep looking.
What happens if I just delete the app?
Nothing stops you, and no alarm goes off anywhere, because nothing about you lives on a server. But your covenant includes a line about exactly this: if I ever delete this app, I will tell my person first. You signed it, they read it, and that is the point. The app was never the thing holding you. They are.
Is it on Android?
Not yet. iPhone first, Android is planned.
How much does it cost?
$99 a year, or $249 once if you would rather not have a subscription. There is no free tier and no trial. Covenant Eyes costs more than this every year and screenshots your phone to do it.
Two things that will not change. Billing is annual, never monthly, because a monthly charge hands you twelve chances a year to cancel the thing you most need in the month after a hard night. And if a payment ever lapses, the blocking and the crisis line keep working. You will never be quietly left uncovered because a card expired.
Support
A human will answer.
Stuck on setup, found a bug, or something is not working the way this page says it should?
support@rscky.comEmail us and a human will answer, usually within two business days.
Helpful to include: your iPhone model, your iOS version, and what you expected to happen versus what happened. Never include screenshots of anything you would rather keep private. We do not need them and we would rather not have them.
Unalone iOS application
Privacy Policy
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The short version: Unalone collects nothing.
Your data lives on your phone, and we cannot see it. This policy exists to say that carefully.
Information we collect: none.
Unalone has no user accounts, no registration, and no server that receives your personal information. Everything you enter in the app, including check-ins, logged urges, notes, your covenant, your contacts' names and phone numbers, and your settings, is stored in a local database on your device only. It is never transmitted to us or to any third party by the app.
Messages. When you use a feature that offers to text someone, Unalone opens your phone's own Messages app with a pre-filled draft addressed to the person you chose. You can edit or discard it. Sending is done by you, through your phone's messaging service, under your carrier's and Apple's terms. Unalone does not send messages on its own and does not see whether you sent one.
Screen Time and blocking. With your permission, Unalone uses Apple's Screen Time (Family Controls) technology to let you block apps and websites you choose. Apple provides these selections to the app as anonymous tokens; the app stores them on your device to maintain your blocking schedule. Unalone does not monitor your browsing, capture your screen, or record what you view. Blocking data never leaves your device.
Notifications. Notifications are generated locally on your device. We do not operate a push notification server.
Analytics and advertising: none. Unalone contains no analytics, tracking, or advertising software of any kind. Apple may provide us aggregated, anonymized statistics (such as number of downloads and crashes) through App Store Connect if you have opted in to sharing analytics with app developers in your device settings; this data is collected by Apple under Apple's privacy policy and is never linked to you by us.
Data deletion. Your data is yours. You can erase everything the app has stored at any time in Settings inside the app. Deleting the app from your device also deletes all of its data. Because we keep no copies, deleted data cannot be recovered by us or anyone else.
Children. Unalone is intended for adults and is not directed at anyone under 18.
Changes. If this policy changes, the updated version will be posted at this page with a new effective date. Because the app collects nothing, we expect changes to be rare.
Contact. Questions about privacy: support@rscky.com, or by mail: Restoration Soul Care, PO Box 154, Goshen, KY 40026.
Unalone iOS application
Terms of Use
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Acceptance. By downloading or using Unalone, you agree to these terms. If you do not agree, do not use the app.
Eligibility. Unalone is for adults. You must be at least 18 years old to use it.
What Unalone is, and is not. Unalone is a self-management tool. It is not therapy, counseling, medical care, or a substitute for any of them, and it is not a crisis service. Using the app does not create a coaching, clinical, or professional relationship between you and Restoration Soul Care. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, contact 988 (US) or your local emergency services.
Your responsibilities. The app's blocking, reminders, and accountability features are aids, not guarantees. You are responsible for your own choices, including who you choose to share information with through the app's messaging features. Blocking depends on Apple's Screen Time technology and your device settings, and may be affected by iOS updates, permission changes, or removal of the app; we do not guarantee that blocking will function at all times.
Intellectual property. The app, its content, and the Unalone name are the property of Restoration Soul Care [LLC — confirm entity] and are protected by applicable law. These terms grant you a personal, non-transferable license to use the app on Apple-branded devices you own or control, consistent with the App Store terms.
Disclaimer of warranties. The app is provided "as is" and "as available," without warranties of any kind, express or implied, including fitness for a particular purpose. [Attorney: standard warranty disclaimer per KY law.]
Limitation of liability. To the maximum extent permitted by law, Restoration Soul Care will not be liable for indirect, incidental, or consequential damages arising from use of the app. [Attorney: standard limitation and any consumer-law carve-outs.]
Apple. These terms are between you and Restoration Soul Care, not Apple. Apple has no obligation to provide support for the app and is a third-party beneficiary of these terms with the right to enforce them. [Attorney: confirm Apple's required EULA minimum terms are incorporated.]
Governing law. These terms are governed by the laws of the Commonwealth of Kentucky. [Attorney: confirm venue/arbitration approach.]
Changes. We may update these terms; continued use after an update is acceptance. Material changes will be noted on this page.
Contact. support@rscky.com · Restoration Soul Care, PO Box 154, Goshen, KY 40026.